I love board games. I like winning them but mostly I like the social time and the challenge of a good game. For a long time, I have struggled with social anxiety. I have a deep fear that if I make one wrong move during a social situation people will hate me. This is especially prevalent when it comes to games. I worry if I enjoy games the way I like to people will never invite me to play again. You may be able to relate to this and know how hard it is to enjoy yourself when you never let your guard down. Recently people close to me have been encouraging me to just play the game and not worry what others think.
How to make a budget plan that will work for you part 1
In this multi part series, I will help you become intentional about your money. We will start with the big picture by creating a budget plan. then we will use budget plan to create more specific plans with monthly and weekly goals and budgets.
“Honor your goal” stay consistent and achieve your goals!
Are you having trouble working towards your goals every day? As you may know, I have a lot of goals, always have. It took me years of struggling to make improvements in my life. I just could not get the traction I needed to meet my goals. After years of trying I found a way that worked for me, but I wish I had learned the “honor your goal” concept back then. It would have saved me a ton of time and grief!
There is something magical about the hours when most people are asleep. Sitting in the quiet house or walking in the yard with the stars shining above you or the sun creeping up the horizon. A magical aura hides within the silence of this time which I dubbed “The Exploration Hour”.
I discovered the Exploration Hour as a teen when I battled insomnia. I was homeschooled at the time. One night in particular sticks out in my memory. Late one night I had laid out my economic books all over the kitchen table, attempting to catch up on some work. After I had been working for a while, my older brother, who is the definition of a night owl, came to the kitchen for a midnight snack. I was startled by him. Startled, but not surprised to see him, as he always stayed up late. He was very surprised by me and even more surprised that I was doing something productive. He shared his snack with me and we talked for awhile and then both went back to our projects.
That night not only did I learn about the magical fuel for the body known as cheese toast, I also learned the magical night time silence was fuel for my productivity. I named this mentally fueling time “The Exploration Hour”
An Unexpected Find
In college I discovered that The Exploration Hour existed not just at night but also in full days. Days when the campus was empty like on Saturday mornings while students slept in, or when most people were home on longer breaks. On these empty days the Exploration Hour was there.
I loved to stroll the campus before noon on those Saturdays and any time I got the chance to stay a day into a break or return early I would take advantage of them. It was during these times when the silence that filled the usually busy campus called to me. The silence wanted to be filled with my thoughts and ideas. I could read for hours during these quiet times, or think of ideas and the future. Everything was peaceful and calm during the Exploration Hours. They were just what I needed during a busy time in my life.
The Exploration Hour Today
The Exploration Hour is when I have done most of my soul searching and life pondering. In fact until recently my exploration hours were the only time I let me be myself.
Now that I have a family of my own, Exploration Hours are hard to come by. Teaching full-time and having to be at the school by 6:45 makes it hard to explore during the early part of the day. Dinner, cleaning and prepping for the next day, not to mention trying to spend time as a family make it difficult to fit much in during the evenings and even harder to stay up into the late night. But tonight I am here, thinking, typing, exploring. And perhaps you are too.
When is your “Exploration Hour”? What do you during that time?